Before I begin, I want to re-iterate that I am not trying to persuade anyone to homeschool their kiddies. I am just trying to help some of my friends who are seriously considering this venue of education. Enough bridge building, here goes my waxing eloquent on the topic of successful homeschooling.
I remember when we were making the decision about whether or not to bring our kids home, I had a ton of concerns and questions. A very small sampling would be:
1. Would my boys grow up tied to their mother’s apron strings?
2. Is this just another venue for me to sin against my kids?
3. Is it fair to put my kids in the pressure cooker of being together 24 hours a day and expect them to get along?
4. Will I ruin them academically? I can’t even remember certain math facts!
5. Will I ruin them spiritually? I will be their primary influence day in and day out….yikes!
6. Given my tendencies toward guilt and condemnation with regard to parenting, do I really need another thing to “fail” in?
And in that little four letter word, FAIL, I find the theme of so many of those questions. What if I fail? It’s scary. It’s not my life we’re talking about here. It’s their lives. The responsibility is great indeed. So as I was getting counsel and asking these questions to my friends who homeschooled, one wise counselor said something that has been helpful on the most beautiful and the most ugly of homsechool days.
This person said that maybe I needed to re-define success. Success isn’t always happy children eager to learn from their competent, creative mother. It isn’t a lack of quarrels, complaining, and chaos. The ultimate measure of success is that at the end of the day a mom and her children grew in their love and gratitude for the Savior. And for some reason, that piece of advice – almost more than all of the others – has comforted me on my hardest days, and directed me on my best days.
What is one piece of advice you received that has been helpful to you veteran homeschool moms? Would you mind sharing any bit of wisdom that has reverberated in your heart over the years? Either comment in my box or tell me you posted so I might link to you.